Getting Spanked By My Wife More

When my wife and I began our Female Led Domestic Discipline journey, we created a list of things she would hold me accountable for with spankings. We had things like being rude to her and being disrespectful to her on the list. We also had some weekly goals, one of the being weight loss on the list. We also agreed on a predetermined number of swats I would get for each item on the list.

My wife has been spanking me now for a couple of years. For many reasons the spankings have been sporadic, at best, throughout those couple of years. One thing I have found, is that I crave regularity and dependability with my discipline. One very important aspect of discipline, for those of us who need this type of punishment, is the feeling of dread, of fear almost, knowing what is coming and when. Looking at the clock, knowing she will be home at 11:00 and that I will be in trouble and get a spanking. The pit in the stomach that grows stronger every minute as the time draws near.

During the time where the spankings were not being administered, I still weighed myself every week. I weighed myself hoping that my wife would ask if I did. When she did not ask, I was always a little disappointed. You may be thinking, well why didn’t you just tell her and maybe then she would have spanked you? Well, because the discipline had started and stopped a few times coupled with the fact that she was hesitant to even do it in the first place, I just figured that it just wasn’t her thing and did not want to force her into something she was uncomfortable with doing.

Recently, after a few months of no spankings or paddlings at all, my wife expressed a desire to get back to my weekly weigh-ins with a spanking if I did not meet my goal for the week. She did not mention anything about other spankings for behavioral issues though. I was pleased that she brought it up to me for a change. I asked her if she was really wanting to do it. She said yes, she really wanted to get back to it. Even though she was only talking about my weight loss goals, I was thrilled that she was wanting to bring spankings back into our marriage.

A couple of weeks later, I got out of bed on my weigh-in day and headed to the scale. My wife was not home at the time. I stepped on the scale and had gained a pound. I got back in bed to finish my coffee and waited apprehensively for my wife to get home.

We had to run a couple of errands that day and I was not looking forward to a long drive with a sore ass. My wife got home and came upstairs. When she got to the bedroom I was expecting her to ask about my weight but she just got in the shower and reminded me we had some things to do so I should get ready.

She forgot about the weigh-in. The relief hit me first but was quickly followed by big disappointment. Looks like maybe things haven’t changed much at all.

We both got dressed and headed out to run our errands. We had a long drive to get to our first stop and about 5 minutes into the drive, out of the blue, she asked “did you weigh yourself?” I told her I did. “And?” I told her I gained a pound. She didn’t even turn her head to look at me, just simply said “okay”.

Now the nerves came back. The pit in my stomach was instantly back and bigger than it was when she walked through the door at home. Not another word was spoken about it the rest of the time we were out. We ran our errands and headed home.

We got home and walked inside. Before the door even closed behind my wife she said “let’s go upstairs”.

I nervously walked up to our bedroom with my wife following close behind. We got to the bedroom, I walked to my side of the bed and started taking off my clothes. As my underwear hit the floor I looked at her. “You said you gained a pound right?” I said yes. “Lay down and you better get something to hold onto” was her response.

I laid face down on the bed as usual and grabbed my pillow, holding it tightly with two clenched fists. Instantly the paddle came down. HARD!!! Then again, 19 more times.

Ever since we started Domestic Discipline, I have wanted to be able to see myself getting spanked. I managed to record this particular spanking. When I watched it back, I was shocked to see that my wife was not swinging the paddle very hard really. In my mind, I imagined she was really swinging and following through, but she was basically just tapping the paddle on my ass. I was shocked!

Part of me was disappointed that she wasn’t really laying into me. But it still hurt like hell.

Since it looked like she was holding back when applying the paddle, and since we were getting back into Domestic Discipline, I wanted to take the opportunity to make sure she knew that I trusted her to really paddle me as severely as she felt I needed.

In the beginning, I was able to convince her to discipline me by sharing a blog with her written by a couple who practice Female Led Domestic Discipline in their marriage. They write about how it has brought them closer and made their marriage stronger. I had also come across a book written by Rebecca Lawson called The Good Wife’s Guide To Taking Charge.

In her book, Rebecca does an amazing job of explaining, from the husband’s perspective, what he is looking for and that he is actually wanting serious discipline. She offers a very clear picture of what a husband is wanting when he asks for Domestic Discipline from his wife. She explains eloquently that the husband is actually asking, and giving permission, for the spankings to be severe, to actually be punishment.

I had wanted to share this book with my wife for a very long time, but had had not yet because I didn’t want to come across as trying to tell her how to do it. I want her to find her own way and find who she is as a disciplinarian.

Since she was the one who said she wanted to get back to spanking, I decided to share the book with her finally. She read it carefully and took a few days to digest it and then last night she told me she had finished the book and that she was going to throw the rules out the window. We would keep the weekly weigh-ins as they were, but she was going to implement spankings for behavior from now on and would not limit them to a pre-agreed upon list. She informed me that she would now be spanking me anytime she felt like I needed it.